Finding the Right One

In a choice of a partner leading to a lifetime commitment, its good to start planning out how to find the right one.

It is important to list down your priorities in a partner you are looking for, be it physical, character and emotion. The importance of this can be likened unto going out to buy a television set without knowing what you really want. There are several models out there and they all are going to look nice. If you don’t know what you want, chances are you are going to end up with the wrong one. If you plan before hand, such as if you want it with an LCD screen, certain budget, size of the screen, resolution etc it will be easy for you to find what you want and get the best deal.

List down everything you are looking for in a partner and then read it to yourself, you will know what you really want then. So when you are out meeting potential partners, you will find it easier to eliminate the ones who are not in your preference list. For example, if you like children and your potential partner can’t stand children, he or she is obviously not a good choice. Be willing to adjust your list if you learn that it can be shown grace such as not eliminating a potential partner if he or she does not meet minor criteria.

I know a friend who said she would not list down the criteria because God knows what she wants and will find the right partner for her. She is 32, very attractive and had been in and out of a few wrong relationships. So what went wrong? I believe God knows what she wants, but I don’t think she does.

Like produces like, that means everything produces after itself. A durian tree cannot produce mangosteen fruit. If you want a skinny, attractive, and intelligent partner etc, make sure you spruce yourself up to be attractive enough for your potential mate.

New Year Resolution

Well it’s that time of the year we pen down our list of things we want to achieve for the following year. Most people after sometime, give up on their new year resolution or recycle last year’s resolution because they fail to achieve some of their goals.

So why they fail ?

Lets see some facts here.

1) Lack of knowledge on the goal being pursued. (For e.g. weight loss program; just starving does not help you achieve your goals. You end up putting back what you have lost. Again, the 80:20 principle. 80% of people put back what they have lost.)
2) Attitude. We have no prediction as to what the following year may hold for us but we must have a positive attitude to see it through.
3) Responsibility. Taking full responsibility for your actions. If you are on a weight loss program, don’t blame the parties and holidays that you have to contend with.

With this I would like to wish you all a Happy New Year and all the success in your goals for 2009!